We are all Narcissists

We Are All Narcissists:
The Razor's Edge of Self and Survival

We live in a psychological battleground where "narcissist" has become a weaponized term, a clinical grenade lobbed into the trenches of "toxic" relationships. But what if I told you that narcissism isn't a condition of the few but the raw, unvarnished truth of most people and essentially our collective human experience?

This is about survival, the primordial scream of a psyche desperate to receive love from others, to be seen, held, and matter. As infants, we are pure vulnerability, a neurological ecosystem entirely dependent on external care. Our first breath is a realization: I am separate; our first cry is a demand: See me, I need... Keep me alive. Attachment isn't just emotional; it's a hard-wired biological imperative.

Key Psychological Points:

- The narcissistic impulse is not a moral failure, but a primordial survival strategy

- Our earliest wounds become the blueprint for our relational patterns

- External validation is a temporary anaesthetic for internal fractures

- True power emerges when we transmute our need for validation into self-generation

Society perpetuates a dangerous mythology: that wholeness exists somewhere out there. We become psychological scavengers, hunting validation through people, achievements, and material totems. We transform humans into idols, into vessels meant to fill the cavernous void within. But here's the truth: no external force can excavate the landscape of your own light, your own grandeur, your own source connection.

True liberation is not about destroying the narcissistic impulse but understanding its architecture. It's about rewiring our internal system from a state of desperate extraction to radical self-generation. When you stop consuming others obsessively and start generating from your core, everything changes.

In this blog, I'll dissect the practical alchemy of this transformation. We are all narcissists until we learn the most revolutionary act of all: to be fully, unapologetically present with ourselves and foster a deep connection with that which permeates life.

This isn't just psychology. This is a declaration of existential sovereignty.